At one time divorces were based upon grounds. A party seeking a divorce had to allege grounds to get a divorce e.g adultery, habitual drunkenness, gross neglect of duty, extreme cruelty etc. and once the grounds were proven the aggrieved part was compensated for the transgressions perpetrated against the marriage.
But times have changed and today grounds are just the “keys to the door”. Once the jurisdiction and venue of the court has been established the court will focus on resolving the issues of property division, the allocation of parental rights and responsibilities (previously know as custody), child support and if appropriate spousal support. The Court will listen to your allegations but it won’t factor them into its deliberations. Naturally, if your concerns are about child abuse or child neglect the court will definitely listen but as this blog is not about those type of concerns I will not address them at this time.
So although the the innocent party is rightfully angry, hurt and disappointed the sooner the innocent party can accept the fact that the court’s focus will be on resolution and not retribution, revenge or vindication the sooner the healing process can occur.
If you find yourself in a situation where a divorce is likely you will need an attorney who can help you pick up the debris from the broken promises of the marriage and use them to help you build a new and positive future. At the Law Offices of David V. Gedrock we can help you with that process, contact us today.